Take a minute to analyze your thoughts about change. What goes through your head? What thoughts are helpful to stay focused on your goals and which ones are conflicting? Once you have identified the conflicting thoughts working on eliminating or lessening the impact they have on your choices is the next step. For some saying positive affirmations that replace the negative thoughts will work. Maybe finding success stories similar to your obstacles in order to show yourself that success is possible. Another idea is to become more knowledgeable or set time aside to make the behavior change if that causes your ambivalence.
Monday, November 7, 2011
Ambivalence is a state of having simultaneous, conflicting feelings. Think about your goals or the behaviors you want to change. Do you have conflicting feelings? One day you are so focused nothing can stand in your way and then the next it was like a light switch was turned and you no longer have the drive to move forward or stick to your goals? If ambivalence ruins commitment there is a problem, but sometimes it just leads to a detour to those things that are most important. Self-awareness and goal setting are key for dealing with ambivalance.